I want to share with you my wife’s wise words for marriageHe spoke to me a couple of days ago. They had a profound impact on my life and the light finally “clicked” inside my brain. I’m not sharing this with you to make you look like a superman or a hero. I share this with you in the hope that it can help your marriage and relationship with your wife.

First of all, I am a normal guy who “got married”. We have 5 children ranging from 9 months to 9 years. I’ve obviously done something right to stay married after 10 years, but is it enough?

This is the question. Why did my wife feel the need to share her eternal wisdom with me? I mean, look at everything I do on the list below and tell me it’s not good enough. Shouldn’t she “feel the love” with all these things that I do for her?

A list of my daily contributions to the family (of course my wife does all of these things too)

– Provide for the family.

– Put a roof over your head.

– I bought him a good vehicle to drive.

– Feed everyone breakfast every day and get them ready for school.

– Take our girls to preschool.

– Make lunch for everyone.

– Make dinner for everyone.

– Wash the dishes.

-Take out the trash and recycle.

– Feed the dog and cat.

– Clean all children before going to bed.

– etc.

All right, you get the point. I do a lot of things. Isn’t that good enough? Shouldn’t I feel love? You might think so … I know I did. (By the way, that may sound like a lot of things I do, but my wife actually does 3 times that … so I can’t brag.)

So after several weeks of my wife dropping hints like, “Can you hang out with me?” “Do you want to be with me?” “What are you going to do tonight?” “Do you want to do something together?” (Maybe your wife asked you questions like this. If so, it’s a RED FLAG that she “love tank” it is empty. This means that you must act. But how?)

Once my wife realized that I was not understanding it, after I explained all the things I do for the family and I did not understand WHY my wife did not “feel loved”. This is what she said. (Here are my wife’s wise words for marriage).

“Honey, I love you and appreciate all that you do. I know you love me and our family. You are an amazing provider and a good man. But here’s the thing. There are roles like mother and father that TO HAVE TO DO contribute to the family. (like my list above). OBJECTIVE, then we are as husband and wife. What have you done lately to show me that you personally love me? I know you’ve done all these amazing things, but when was the last time you did something specifically for me?

Practical things my wife wanted from me

It didn’t have to be anything big …

– just a little text here and there throughout your day to let me know that you are thinking of me.

– just stopping for a minute when you walk into the room to recognize me and tell me that you love yourself.

– just a little hug and kiss here and there during the day (and not the hug and kiss that leads you to know what!)

– a phone call throughout the day to tell me that you love me and that you were thinking of me.

– and I actually appreciate the great thing you did for me over a week ago, but I would honestly prefer you to do little things consistently every day rather than one great thing every two months. “

My response to my wife’s wise words


That hurts!

She is correct!

How the hell did I miss that?

We have this great family, we have been blessed with a nice home, food in our stomachs and we have the daily tasks of the PARENTS to keep the family going … but what about my wife and I?

So what did I do after my wife shared her heart with me?

listen my wife’s wise words for marriage. Although it is HARD! I listened and then took action. It wasn’t difficult because I felt compelled to love her. I love her with all my heart. It was difficult because I have to find creative ways to “physically show her that I love her through my words and actions.” Doing all the responsibilities of my Father is not enough.

Now, to my surprise, it seemed that when I took his wise words and applied them, things started to get easier. She was full of joy. The children seemed to be happier and did not participate as much. The job was easier. I felt better. We were both happy together as husband and wife.

Please take my wife’s wise words for marriage

So here it is, if your wife hasn’t told you … she’s thinking about it. You have to show her how much you love her. Think about how you felt about her before and on your wedding day. Remember that she was the only thing you could think about and that you couldn’t focus on anything else. Think of all the things that drew you to her in the first place. Then make sure you know how special it is.

It may be easier said than done, but it is not. This is something you have to do … You MUST do this if you want to maintain a strong marriage and fulfill your wife’s wishes. And trust me, you will reap what you sow. I know you might be thinking, “What about my wishes?” “Why don’t you appreciate everything I do?”

But trust me on this … you, as the leader of your family and your wife, must lead by example. If your wife feels love, she won’t mind you watching the game on Sunday. She won’t mind if you work a little harder if necessary. She will KNOW that she is loved and will make all the difference in the world. If possible, I would recommend that you schedule an appointment once a week with your wife. Treat that moment as if your life depended on it. YOU BOTH need to spend time together more than you know.


Now my wife’s wise words for marriage may not seem like a big deal, but they are! And when I say “you” you need to do these things, I am also talking to myself. There are many hurt and broken marriages in this world, because men are too proud to lead by example and they focus too much on things that are not as important as we think. Let’s change that!

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